Today I've been thinking about how 'modern' women are different from the women of the past.
Right now, I'm at work, at the helpdesk, looking out into the computer lab. Its quite interesting here at devry, because of the incredible mix of backgrounds and appearances. What strikes me, though, is the modern woman's ability to appear young for so many years. I can guaruntee you, that all the women in the lab are under the age of thirty. Thats it. I could not even remotely guess any ages after that, because almost all of them look like they are about 18. I *know* they are not, but thanks to medicine, make-up and exercise, they maintain the 'age' of 18 for many years.
What I've been thinking about is how this is unfair to men. I'm going to use myself as an example here, and hope that my g/f understands where I'm coming from.
Basically, if I want to pursue a woman here in the computer lab, how do I start? Namely, I'd like to pursue someone my own age, correct? Ok, problems galore, because they all look my age. Maybe I can go by the way they dress? Not so much, due to the ethnic backgrounds of many, and pretty much all women are willing to to wear modern style clothing. Sometimes you can tell a bit more about age from someones hands, but other times no. If you dont know them at all, you have no idea if they have a family or not, and how do you even ask about that? Its all about keeping cool, and asking the right questions. The only problem is accidentally offending someone.
How can a guy 'pursue' a woman, if he's not even sure of how old she is? Considering a woman is able to look 22 for 15 years now, its hard for a guy like myself to make a good call on whether I want to pursue. I guess that means that an 'alternate' strategy is in order.
A more revised 'dating' strategy is needed to determine availability of a potential partner. Instead of 'asking them out' right away, effort should be made to get to know the person. I dont mean in a romantice sense either... just get to know them in a personal way. Learn about them, learn about their past. Its a kind of cool idea... once that is popular among many of my homeschooled friends. I think its more prevalent amongst the girls than it is among the guys, maybe due to the fact that women (speaking generally) are interested in a more communication-based relationship, whereas males are not.
I may be completely off-base with this, but its just some of my thoughts on the matter. Basicly, now, if a guy wants to pursue someone... he's going to have to work a little harder in many cases to ensure that his intentions and feelings are made known to the 'target', and that he must also allow things to progress at a comfortable rate. Not all first dates need to end with a first kiss. Slow down, take it easy guys.